Last week we did the Super Bowl, wings, and advice for the guys. But, it’s about to get all girly around here today. It’s all Valentines, hearts, and cupcakes. Plus, we’ve gotta be fair, so some advice for the ladies. Let’s be honest, the guys might need a little help figuring us women out… but some advice on dealing with our guys might be in order too. We definitely don’t get things prefect all the time either. Well, I don’t anyway. Most fortunately for me, my dear husband puts up with all my mistakes, craziness, crabby-ness, insecurities, and slight tendency to nag, with great grace.
So in honor of Valentine’s some sage advice to my fellow women. (Some of which I’ve already learned through trial and error. Some of which I still need to implement….)
- Stop trying to make him talk about his feelings when he’s stressed, worried, etc. Thats our thing. It generally stresses him out waaayy more to have to talk about it. Just let him know you’re there and you’ve got his back.
- Don’t criticize him in front of other people. If you have a real concern or problem talk to him in private, and I bet he’ll do his best to fix the problem. Most of our guys really just want to make us happy.
- I don’t know about you, but I remember things that bothered me that go years back. But, it’s pretty darn crummy to have past mistakes, fights, or problems tossed in your face. Once something (i.e. a fight) is over let it go. Don’t keep dredging it up.
- Give him the benefit of the doubt. If your guy says something that can be interpreted more then one way, he meant the nice one.
- Let him take care of you.
- let him solve problems for you.
- Don’t forget to show him /tell him you appreciate the things he does for you. We can get so fixated on what our guys do that we don’t like that we forget to appreciate how awesome they are, and all the great things they do.
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- Its ok if he’s quiet it doesn’t mean something terrible.
- No really, it’s ok if he’s quiet and it does not mean the world is about to come to a screeching halt. Really, he is just quiet.
- Sometimes he just needs to vent and have you take his side; so don’t try to give him perspective or help him see the situation from some else’s point of view.
- Don’t tell him he shouldn’t be stressed about work. If he has good work ethic he cares that things go well => Hence, he gets stressed. We want guys with good work ethic right? So don’t rag on him for a side effect of a good trait.
- Don’t critize when he makes plans. We want our guys to make the plans, then we complain, rearrange the plans because they aren’t the plans we would have made, or because we think our plans are better. Guess what, if you do this he won’t make plans anymore.
- He doesn’t need your advice/help on everything. You married him because he’s smart, funny, loving… Keyword smart. Your guy might not do things the way you would; but he managed just fine before you came along. Plus, you don’t want to make him feel like you are his mother. I’m sure she’s got the job covered just fine anyway.
- Take him at face value. If he says he’s not mad… he’s not mad. If he says he’s good with the plans… he’s good with the plans. If he says he’s… you get the idea.
- Related: If you ask what he’s thinking, and he says nothing, he may actually be thinking about nothing. Charlie assures me this is entirely possible.
- Sometimes during the football game is not a good time to talk, this doesn’t mean you aren’t important, or he doesn’t really love you. So now and again, just give the guy a break and let him watch his game.
- Also, football games always last longer then the little clock thing says it will.
How about you (guys or gals out there), what’s your best piece of advice for women? Leave a comment and share!
Alright, now we can talk hearts and cupcakes! Actually I have no idea what to say about hearts? So cupcakes…. Especially Snickerdoodle cupcakes!! I’m generally a chocolate kind of girl when it comes to cake, but there’s just something about that whole snickerdoodle flavor profile that gets me. Maybe it’s just the cinnamon? I do love cinnamon.
Either way, I could eat a thousand snickerdoodle cupcake in a hot minute. Which is exactly why I came up with a recipe to only make 2 cupcakes. One for me, and for
me, scratch that. One for Charlie. Done. No more oh so Delish cupcakes hanging around for the next week, just calling my name, begging me to eat them.
Also a plus, these cupcakes can be made with, count it: one small bowl, one measuring cup, and one spoon! Nice right? Ok, I guess measuring spoons help too, but I feel the point still stands. So no big mess to clean up and we can get back to the hearts and romance.
So, have a Happy Valentines Day! (and go make some cupcakes)
Snickerdoodle Cupcakes For Two– Yields 2 cupcakes. Recipe adapted from Taste of Home Yellow Cupcakes.
- 1/4 cup all purpose flour
- 1/4 teaspoon baking powder
- 3 tablespoons sugar
- 1/16 teaspoon kosher salt
- 1/8 teaspoon cinnamon
- 2 tablespoons butter, melted
- 1 egg yolk
- 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
- 3 tablespoons milk
1. Preheat the oven to 350*. Line the center most two spots of a muffin pan with paper liners, set aside. Add the flour, baking powder, sugar, salt, and cinnamon to a measuring cup. Use a spoon to stir all the dry ingredients very well, be especially sure that the baking powder has evenly distributed.
2. Add the melted butter, the egg yolk, vanilla extract, and milk to the measuring cup. Use the spoon to mix well until a thick, smooth batter, with no lumps has formed. Distribute the batter evenly between the two prepared muffin cups. The cups will be slightly more then 3/4s of the way full.
3. Bake at 350* for 16-20 minutes until the cupcakes are golden brown. (It was a perfect 18 minutes in my oven.) Remove the pan from the oven and allow the cupcakes to cool for about ten minutes in the pan. Remove the cupcakes from the pan, and allow them to cool the rest of the way before frosting.
Mini Serving of Cinnamon Butter Cream
- 2 tablespoons of butter
- 10 tablespoons powdered sugar
- 1/8 teaspoon cinnamon
- 1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract
- 1-2 teaspoons of milk
1. Using a hand held mixer beat together butter, powered sugar, cinnamon, vanilla, milk, and greek yogurt until creamy. Frost cupcakes as desired.
A few other Valentine’s things:
Just had to share this little video with you, because wouldn’t it be insanely cute to bake hearts inside your cupcake? Yes. Yes it would.